Happy Birthday to The Very Busy Spider!

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The Very Busy Spider Turns 25

Did you know that our very busy friend celebrated her birthday this week?  

It’s a sheer coincidence that M and I picked up several of Eric Carle’s books from the library yesterday. Looks like this is going to be Eric Carle week at our home. The first book that caught my eye, for some reason, was Draw Me a Star. I hadn’t read this one before and as it usually happens with his books, one glance was all it took to make both of us want to  start reading it right away. After that, of course, you just have to take it home to enjoy some more. There’s a fascinating story behind this book and it comes with directions to draw a star – a beautiful book and interactive experience to share with your child. Definitely check it out if you haven’t already.

Anyway, as I cuddled up with M in the library’s children’s section to read the book, I pointed to the author’s name, and asked her, “Have we read any other books by Eric Carle?”  And, without blinking, she said, “The Very Busy Spider”!! (Don’t you just love it when kids learn to make connections and associations and remember the things you hope they will?)

Happy Birthday to The Very Busy Spider

Happy Birthday to The Very Busy Spider

I just realized that The Very Busy Spider’s 25th birthday just went by. So, I’m thinking of ways to celebrate with M this weekend. Here’s what I’ve thought of so far for our Spider party:
* Read The Very Busy Spider together! (Like most kids her age, she loves to say the line ” The spider didn’t answer. She was very busy spinning her web.” on each page)
* Watch a video of The Very Busy Spider.
Invite friends and get the kids to act out the different parts – taking turns being the spider. (Or volunteer to help organize the play at daycare)
* Do spider crafts and play games. 1)Use yarn and masking tape to make a spider on the floor and ask kids to walk around it without touching the Spider. The one who touches the spider first is out of the game.
 2) Make paper spiders and hang them from the ceiling, under tables, chairs and shelves. Whoever collects the most spiders wins.
3) Children take turns being the “Spider”. The Spider pretends to spin a web  and must not talk or get distracted no matter what the other kids do. The others, of course, try to provoke, make jokes, ask questions and try different ways to distract the “Spider”. When she gives in, she’s out of the game.
* Sing Eensy Weensy Spider and other spider songs.

The Very Busy Spider, with the characteristic, simple, brilliant and childlike quality of Eric Carle’s books leaves us smiling…but not before delivering its message quietly and effectively.

In Eric Carle’s words, “Despite the many diversions in life, we must do our work!”

So, a very Happy Birthday to you dear Spider. May you enjoy many, many more busy years bringing smiles to countless more children. And may we continue to learn from you the important lessons of goal setting, focus and tireless perseverance.

Make Reading to Kids a Part of Your Waiting Routine

Reading opportunities are everywhere. Have you found them?

It was Thursday afternoon. After dropping M off at her swimming lesson, I settled into a comfy chair in the lobby with about 30 minutes to kill. I had brought along a magazine to keep me company. As I sat there thumbing through my magazine, other mothers joined me, after dropping their children off at their lessons. To my right, a few feet away, sat a mom with a little girl, whose elder sister or brother was probably taking swimming lessons.

As you might expect, many of the moms pulled out their mobile phones and began texting or making calls.  This mom pulled out a couple of books from her tote. My ears perked up.

Throughout the 30 minutes or so of waiting, the mom and child enjoyed their one-on-one reading/bonding time, with no interruptions or distractions. I didn’t exactly hear what they read or said to each other(I caught a few words from Thumbelina though!), but I noticed that the little girl was attentive and curious for the entire 30 minutes. Just as they finished reading, it was time to pick up our kids from the pool.

This wasn’t the first time I had seen a mom and child read while waiting in that lobby. On a few earlier occasions, a mother and her daughter, who was just beginning to learn to read, spent the 30 minutes reading to each other alternately. The girl sounded out letters and words and put together sentences as her mother watched, listened and guided her patiently. I don’t know why, but I find it very refreshing to watch mothers and kids read together.

Watching these moms and their kids turn waiting time into reading opportunities confirmed what I’ve believed all along -
* Reading opportunities are everywhere. We just have to make the effort to spot them and use them to read. Waiting time can’t get any more productive or enjoyable than exploring books(or songs or word games) together. And it may be the only time you won’t have interruptions or other distractions affecting your reading experience.
* By turning waiting time into reading time, you’re giving your kids the skills to survive the longest lines. Ever seen how some people never crib when their flight is delayed or the line doesn’t move? They’re probably the ones who brought along a book or two. It’s not that the delay doesn’t affect them as much as it affects others. But, if there’s nothin they can do about it, then they’d rather read than rant during the wait. I am pretty sure that if those moms hadn’t brought along books to read with their kids, those 30 minutes of waiting would have turned out very differently for everyone.  By choosing to read with your child, you avoid tantrums, whiny, unreasonable demands, sibling squabbles and other unpleasant experiences that make waiting time seem even longer.

Reading While Waiting May Be Your Best Bet

I’m sure you’ll agree – not too many of us have the luxury of too much free time. So, allocating the recommended 20-30 minutes to read to kids may not always be possible.  But, whether your child is 6 months or 6 years old, you can’t stress the importance of a regular, consistent reading routine enough. It’s like taking out the trash or doing the laundry – unless you have a daily and weekly routine, things will probably get out of hand and before you know it you’ll have nothing to wear and an overflowing trashcan. And unless you set aside a time to read to kids everyday, it’s probably not going to happen.  The ‘reading at bedtime’ ritual is a good idea provided you have the time and energy at the end of a long day to curl up with your kid and a book. Which is not the case with many of us.

But, guess what? Regardless of our lifestyle, location and nature of work, there’s something we all do almost everyday? Be it at the supermarket, the airport, the doctor’s office, train station, bus stop or when we have to pick an older sibling up from karate or soccer. Everyday we all spend precious time waiting. So why not plan better for those chunks of time you spend waiting at different places?

Whether it’s 5 minutes or 50, having a book on hand makes all the difference between killing time and making the most of it with your child.

Handy Tips to Fit Reading to Kids into Your Routine
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Always have a stash of books in the car. Encourage kids to thumb through them as you drive or take turns reading to each other. Rotate and restock the books periodically.
- Consider mobile storybook apps. These come in handy when you’re waiting in line at the grocery store or post office.
- Carry a board book or two in your bag – especially useful when feeding or soothing a fussy baby. Familiar books and items tend to calm babies when they’re disturbed by an unfamiliar environment or faces.
- Use Audio Storybooks in the car during long drives, instead of the DVD player.

Picking the Right Children’s Books and Other Reading Tips

Have you ever wondered if a children’s book is right for your child? Or wished you just knew how to pick the best, age appropriate books for your kids? Do you wish you could ‘check out’ children’s books before you actually bought them?

The following video may have some answers.  

Lara Ivey is a reading consultant with Grow up With Books. Lara was a teacher for 17 years before she decided to stay home with her kids. All those years of reading to kids ensured that she was never too far from children’s books. So, now, as a Reading Consultant, she continues to enjoy her favorite activity- finding, reading and reviewing children’s books and offering reading tips!

I spoke to her last week about some of her best reading tips and favorite children’s books for various ages.

In this video,
* You will learn what watching a Youtube video of the 20,000 Dollar Pyramid has to do with reading children’s books.
* You will hear some terrific tips on reading to kids and picking age appropriate books, among other things. If you follow Lara’s tips, you probably won’t have to wonder if a book is right for your child. You will know.
*You’ll also see some of her book recommendations for various age groups – classics and new books. If you haven’t read these with your child already, you may want to. (And remember you don’t have to buy them if you don’t want to! ) 
*You’ll see how reading is related to planting a tree and nurturing it. Lara has an interesting analogy. If you’ve ever wondered if there’s such a thing as too many books or too much reading…you may find the answer.
* You’ll discover a book that actually appeals to kids ages 0-9 years!
* As a special treat, you’ll see Lara reading from some of her favorite children’s books.

I’ll let Lara tell you the rest!  

                                                           

Some of the books featured:  
The Truly Terribly Horrible Sweater… that Grandma Knit by Debbie Macomber, Marie Lou Carner;
Mercy Watson series by Kate DiCamillo;
Clementine by Sara Pennypacker, 
You Read to Me I’ll Read to You by Mary Ann Hoberman,
When you Reach Me  by Rebecca Stead,
Manners Can be Fun by Monroe Leaf. (Don’t miss the personal anecdote Lara shares about the author towards the end. ) 

Disclaimer: This is my first experience doing a long distance video interview, while figuring out how to work the recording software, all the time wondering if it was recording at all. (I’m trying to make it sound like Rocket Science. Is it working?) So, I hope you’ll excuse my funny voice( which I attribute to a cold and nervousness) and my inexperience. I hope that won’t stop you from enjoying the information in this video!

Tulika Blogathon – Children’s Books in Mother Tongue – Formal Vs Informal

This is my first experience participating in a Blogathon and the topic is a real treat : Writing and Speaking the Mother Tongue 

Mother tongue learning and language development are topics that have been on my mind lately and something I’ve only recently begun to read about. So, I am very happy to be participating in this.  Thank you, Tulika, for asking these important questions.

The Questions:
1.How different are the written and spoken forms of your first language?
2.If you want children to become familiar with their first language, which form would you look for in children’s books – formal or
informal? Why?

To answer Q 1,

Our first language is Tamil. The spoken and written forms are VERY different.  To someone who’s had no exposure to written or formal Tamil, reading from a Tamil book or poem will probably seem like a different language the first few times…unless they pay keen attention to certain words. Earlier, I wrote about how this happened with my daughter the first couple of times I read to her in Tamil.

To answer Q 2 about whether I’d prefer children’s books to be written in ‘formal’ or ‘informal’ Tamil, let’s consider:

Why do I want to read to my daughter in Tamil?

 *I want her to continue communicating fluently in Tamil. I have observed that reading to/with a child and doing other activities( singing, group activities, value-ed classes or play groups) in that language plays a really crucial role in a child continuing to learn and use that language. I’m sure most parents have noticed that babies start picking up and applying words and phrases from books we read to them long before they actually start ‘talking.’ Little, repetitive phrases or catchy lines in books are among the first to enter a child’s vocabulary( besides obvious, everyday things, people and concepts like the words for mother, father, milk etc). So, if I don’t read to my daughter in Tamil in addition to speaking to her in Tamil, it may not be too long before she loses interest in the language, since most of her everyday learning experiences happen in an English-speaking environment.

* I want her to enjoy, appreciate, grow to love and take pride in her mother tongue.  Reaching this level of awareness and appreciation of language may take some years. But, by constantly exposing my child to the rich vocabulary and intricacies of Tamil language from an early age( as much as my very limited knowledge of Tamil will allow, since I never studied Tamil myself and my official second language was Hindi), I’d like to think I’m establishing a framework for that to happen at some point.

* I want her to learn and enjoy the process of learning a new language, so she can enjoy the benefit of being bilingual or multilingual. Nobody really knows how a child learns language, but most researchers agree that learning more than one language from an early age is beneficial in several ways – improves child’s cognitive, creative abilities, slows aging, keeps the mind alert, helps them adapt to new environments, makes them more tolerant and broadminded, improves their employability etc etc. So regardless of whether or not my daughter will do either of the above, I want to give her the advantage of bilingualism at the very least.

  So, will a formal or informal style enable the above?

I guess, it may not matter initially, as long as children are reading something – anything – in their mother tongue or at least making an effort to. That in itself is a greater feat than many kids will achieve ( determining factors being parental involvement, parents’ knowledge and interest in mother tongue, available resources etc). But, when it comes to a language like Tamil, where the spoken and written forms differ so vastly, and which has several dozens, if not hundreds of dialects and countless colloquialisms characterizing each geographical location, community or generation…it’s sure to be very challenging to find a common written format that will appeal to all.

Also, we know that this kind of ‘informal’ Tamil is easy for kids to pick up anyway, since that’s what they use on a day to day basis at home and are exposed to in movies, on TV and through various outlets of pop culture. Be it stage shows, contests, radio, cultural events or family gatherings, there won’t be any shortage of opportunities to learn informal Tamil if your child is already in a Tamil-speaking environment.

However, you can’t say the same about ‘formal’ or pure Tamil. If we don’t consciously make an attempt to expose kids to pure Tamil( as pure as it gets these days, anyway), there’s not much chance they’re going to learn it. And only the child’s parents can determine how important or insignificant that exposure is.

But, are the two really mutually exclusive?

In my view, ‘formal’ and ‘informal’ don’t seem to matter when it comes to entertaining and engaging children. Would you call Barathiyar’s Odi Vilayadu Pappa and age-old favorite rhymes like Nila Nila Odi Vaa, Kaakka Kaakka Parandhu Vaa formal because they use ‘pure’ Tamil words or ‘informal’ because they have been making children smile for decades?

That said, attaining this balance between formal and informal may not always be easy and not all attempts turn out tastefully.  I’d personally like to see a mix and match of styles – formal to semi formal language in familiar settings.  You may be aware of some of these online gems.

* Pratham Books’ Nilaavum Thoppiyum( Chaand ka Tohfa in Hindi)

* Singamum Sundeliyum and other stories in the series (can’t locate the link at the moment)

* Some of the sections in Tamilvu

I’d say the language in most of these is semi formal, but not so stiff that kids won’t enjoy it. At first, my daughter found words like ‘Muzhangiyathu’ and ‘Magizhchi’ amusing. Now, she’s got used to the sounds and words and likes using them. She’s figured out that that’s probably not the way we speak but that it’s the way Tamil is written. Given the fact that my daughter may never learn formal Tamil literature, syntax or texts in the traditional sense, the only way for me to introduce her to ‘literary Tamil’ at least to a small degree is by means of such books.

I can’t imagine doing that if the books used ”Ponaanga” instead of “Sendrar” or “Khushi” instead of “Magizhchi.”

Related Posts:

Early Literacy and Bilingualism

Reasons to Read to Your Child in Your Mother Tongue

(Reading to Kids Tip # 5) Reading to Your Curious Child – Handling Questions

Are Interruptions Diluting Your Reading Experience

Questions are good. It means your child is interested, curious, paying attention and motivated to read. But sometimes they distract from the reading experience. If I were to answer all of M’s questions while reading a book, I’d probably not have finished even half a picture book in 2 years. ( “Whose dog is this? Why is he here? Why is he so big? What’s this baby doing? Why aren’t you reading?” Uh. I was in the middle of answering your first question, when you asked me the other four?)

Questions start conversations and having conversations about the book you’re reading with your child is fantastic. Necessary even. But when and how you tackle questions determines how enjoyable and fruitful your reading experience turns out to be. Too many interruptions tend to spoil the flow of a story or book. At the same time, if you proceed in a monotone from cover to cover, you can’t blame Junior for wiggling away between pages 1 and 2.

When you’re reading to a child or a group of kids, curiosity and questions are inevitable and essential to the learning process.  But, are there techniques help you handle them in a manner that’s least distracting and most effective?

I’ll share some methods that I use with M, which work sometimes. Maybe they’ll work for you too. Try these steps separately or in combination – whatever you and your child find enjoyable. Nothing works perfectly all the time, of course. We’re talking about parenting here! If you have ideas on handling reading interruptions and questions – please do share them.

Tips for handling Reading Interruptions:
To Answer or Ignore – That is the Question!

Establish rules and offer a gentle reminder before you begin. “Remember how we said that we’d hold off questions till we finish reading the book/ or this section? That way it’ll be more interesting and we can figure out the answers together at the end.”
When you sense a question coming, beat your kid to it. Ask her a question. About something on the page. Or why do you think…or what do you think…Anything to encourage her to think instead of expecting you to answer.
Tackle minor Qs as they come at ya’. Yeah the teeny ones are easy to get over with so you can get on with the book.
Encourage them to think about the answer, or wait till you finish reading…keep the curiosity alive. “That’s a great question. Maybe we’ll find out on the next page.”
Take on bigger, more complex questions in the second reading. “Why don’t we finish the book and then see if we can figure it out?”
Never scold your child for interrupting with a question. It immediately sends them the wrong signal and reading turns from an enjoyable, bonding experience to another of those ’do as Mommy says’ activities. If 1,2 and 3 fail, then do your best to answer your child’s questions. It’s ok if that delays your reading of the book or you’re unable to finish it even. As long as your child paid attention, was interested enough to ask questions and listen to your answer-congratulate yourself on a highly productive reading session and a wonderful bonding time.

It’s your turn – How do you handle interruptions and questions while reading with kids?

Also check out:
Reading to Your Baby Series – Tip 1, Tip 2, Tip 3, Tip 4

Turning Readers into Writers – Parenting Lessons From a Book Launch

About Celebrating Our Children’s Accomplishments

I read about this 8-year old’s first Book Launch and just had to share it. Just another endearing example to show that parents and other grown-ups in a child’s life have a HUGE role to play when it comes to shaping the child’s attitudes, beliefs and personality. I believe that nurture has the power to trump nature in dire circumstances. But in most cases, nurture complements the gifts nature has endowed on a child.

Kiruba’s daughter Krithya is probably a regular 8-year old – bright, loveable, talented, funny, curious and full of life. But unlike most of her peers, Krithya just launched her first book – The Untold Story of the Rabbit and Tortoise.

Now, there’s nothing unusual about an 8-year old writing a story. (Not to take away from Krithya’s talents and efforts – I’m sure she’s an amazing young lady.) But, considering how fertile children’s imaginations are and how they constantly feed their curiosity, it’s hardly a surprise that kids have the ability to weave fascinating and entertaining tales that could give best-selling authors a run for their money. But what’s remarkable about this story is how the little girl’s parents go out of their way to encourage her and give wings to her dreams.

Kiruba is considered one of India’s top bloggers. He plays a key role in organizing blogging and social media events, entrepreneur’s meet-ups and bringing people and aid together for disaster relief measures.  So organizing a book launch was probably a piece of cake. But the fact that he takes his 8-year old’s book this seriously is what makes the difference. The takeaway from this story is how special and important he and his wife have made their daughter feel on the occasion of the ‘launch’ of her first book.

There are a couple of important lessons in this story for all parents -

Don’t disregard imagination.
We all probably discard hundreds of worksheets, school assignments, pencil drawings and coloring books at the end of every year when we clean out our kids’ rooms in preparation for the next school year. I bet there is at least one piece in there that deserves to live and to take on a form that can be shared with the world – a story, a drawing, a doodle, a verse, a joke…if we only paid a little more attention to our kids’ creations.

Make a big deal out of kids’ efforts.
Krithya’s parents didn’t have to get the story published. They could have just let it languish in some old corner of their house and shown it to interested family members. They could have stuck it on their refrigerator for guests and relatives to see. But they chose to do more. They gave her story a form and shape for the world to enjoy, in the process encouraging their daughter(and her little sister) to value imagination and ideas. By publishing her book and by making a big deal out of her book launch, they showed her how important her thoughts, words and actions were. A bunch of grown-ups showing up to celebrate an 8-year old’s first book is a terrific way to validate her achievement, to boost her confidence in her abilities and to encourage her to put her sincerest efforts into all her work.

In this day of self-publishing, getting your child’s book published requires almost no effort. But not many of us decide to go through even the simple steps involved.  Just getting the book self-published in itself would be a big deal for a child. But, this story has shown us that it’s lot more fun and not too difficult to take it just a step further.  Why not hold an event to celebrate your child’s wonderful creation? And invite your child’s classmates, friends and role models( no harm in trying even if they’re celebrities!) to the event and having a party in honor of your child’s imagination and efforts. The principle can be applied to pretty much any form of art or expression. Regardless of your child’s interests, finding a way to applaud the efforts of your budding artist, musician, writer, inventor, geologist, astronomer, teacher or whatever it is your child is interested in, and to let him share it with the world is a fantastic way to sustain his passion. I imagine it also serves as tremendous motivation to him and his friends.

Many Congratulations to Krithya and to kids everywhere – thank you for keeping imagination, curiosity, humor and playfulness alive in our world. And to Kiruba – thanks for reminding us how our little( and not so little) gestures help kids stay that way.

I hope to get my hands on a copy for my daughter soon!